Saturday, January 11, 2014

The Liebster Awards: I was tagged! :D

So, I recently found out that two dear friends of mine nominated me for their Leibster Awards. And since I love these tag kinda things yet never get tagged. I'm jumping to get this going!

These are the Liebster Awards, a random system that anyone can take part in in order to share the little blogs around the world wide web and get their names out there! After looking up these awards, I found that how it works can vary depending on who does it, as the original Liebster Awards seemed to just focus on promoting blogs rather than adding questions and such on, so like chain letters, rumours or Chinese whispers, these Liebster Awards adapt and develop for other bloggers, depending on what sort of course you want to take with it.


1. Link back to the Blogger who nominated you for this Spiffing Award. 
2. Answer the 11 questions given to you by the blogger whom has so kindly nominated you.
3. Nominate 11 other bloggers with under 200 followers for this spiffing award.
5. Pray that they read this post and find out that they have been nominated!
6. Go to the blogs you have nominated and notify them of what you have done. 
7. Give your nominees 11 wonderful questions. Just don't get personal, kay?
8. You did not realise that I missed out Numero 4 on this list, right?

No kids for sick people?

Before I start tackling the actual subject of this post I would like to point out that I am going to discuss a controversial subject and many of you won't agree with me. Please keep any comments or replies polite or I will feel obligated to remove them. My main goal is to get people thinking, not to offend people. Dependent on my mood I might or might not be willing to start a discussion with you. Remember that you are the only one who decides whether you will read this blog. I am not forcing you to do so. I even advice you that if you think the subject might be harmful, to not read it. To make things clear: I will be sharing my thoughts as to whether people who suffer from a disease should have children. I do not claim to be an authority on this subject, I am merely stating my opinions which might be misinformed. I am not by any means claiming that anything that I am saying is factual information.

Most of the people who know me, and many who don't know that I am a big fan of controversial discussions. I like to think out of the box and ask myself what things are really about. This often leads to disagreement since the reason that certain subjects are controversial is because very few people have the opposing opinion. This however was one subject that the one friend I butt heads with the most agreed on (or to be fair, I agreed with him). The thing the both of us agreed on was that it would be better if sick people weren't allowed to have children. Now before you go in a full rage, please let me explain what the definition is of 'sick people' in this context and why I think they shouldn't have kids.

Sick people in this case are not those who have the flu, or those who suffer from asthma. In this context I mean those people who are sick to a life-altering extent. I mean those who are sick in a way that they can not care for themselves, or those who have a very short life expectation. And especially if said disease is also genetic. There are four reasons why I have this opinion, I'll discuss them in order of what I find to be the most obvious reasons.

The first one is a reason that some people might share with me, and it can be summarized with the word genetics. I do not think that it is fair of a parent who as has a genetically prevalent disease to risk the child having the same disease as you do. Especially since you know how hard it is. It's basically the concept of wanting the best for your child. I wouldn't want to have a child if I knew that it would have to suffer from poverty for the rest of his life the same way I wouldn't want it to have to suffer from a life altering disease for the rest of it's life. I do realize though, that there is such a thing as recessive traits and that there is a chance that the child won't get sick. We could even do IVF to make sure that the child will not have the disease, and maybe in the future we can cancel it by the means of mutations. I don't think that this is a direction we should be going though, since it will be hard to draw the line and I am not fond of a future where parents can fill in a checklist as to which features their child should or shouldn't have. Especially since the DNA has mysterious ways and not all traits are simply based on the code. But besides that there are other reasons why not to do it.

My second argument would be that if you can't take care of yourself, how would you expect to take care of someone else who is likely to be a lot more demanding. It might be the case that the person's partner feels up for the task, and yes, there are many single parents who manage to do their job flawlessly. But even if that is so, it will still be very straining on them and no matter how sweet your child might be, in the first number of years they will not understand why mommy/daddy doesn't help them in certain situations. That will not only be hard for the child to deal with, but I am quite sure that parent will feel bad that they can't help their child when it needs them.

Thirdly I would like to guide the attention to the other ways the situation might be emotionally straining for the child. Imagine growing up being constantly aware of the fact that one of the people you love the most is suffering every day and you are not able to help them. You love them unconditionally but there is something keeping them from joining you on the day you want them to be there. And last but not least, the thought that there might be a day that they won't be there anymore. Of course this is a fear that any person might experience, but in this case it would be much more likely, and it might happen when the child is still at an age where it is not ready to deal with it. I think that is an emotional strain that no loving parent would want their child to go through.

 And to finish things off, my final argument happens to be one I haven't even thought off myself but was suggested by the friend I mentioned earlier. One thing that strongly sets humans apart from animals is that unlike them we have come to escape the element of natural selection. In present day even some of the most unfortunate people can manage to stretch out their lives and have children while they wouldn't even had the chance to survive if they were a different animal. Because of this the human population is being flooded by diseases that will remain forever. In a way we're dooming the future generations who won't be able to escape having a life altering disease. It might be good that we can alleviate diseases, but wouldn't it be even better if people wouldn't have to suffer them (as much) in the first place?

I do know that despite these things people will still chose to have children, because they really want to and think these consequences will be outweighed. I'm sure there are many children who have grown up in such circumstances and feel like they haven't suffered for a day. Still I wouldn't ever advise someone who is sick to such a life altering extent to have children, since I think it would be better for them, and the 'child'. I don't want there to be a law or regulation to forbid these people to have children. This is mainly because I believe that it is close to impossibly to set the boundaries as to when a person is 'to sick' to take care of a child, since that depends on so many factors. We can't possibly make a lists of diseases since each disease comes in different gradations, and for some it lasts longer than for the other, and some manage to cope with them better than others. I just hope that people will make well educated choices and won't be blinded by the fact that they want children. I'm happy to know that this is most often the case though.

Sunday, December 29, 2013

Homosexuality in Japan & South Korea

Having been born in a relatively free spirited and open minded country like the Netherlands, I feel quite privileged. I've never really heard many homophobic things and my mom has raised me to be supportive of everything that is non-normative. As I grew older though, I soon came to realize that not everyone is as embracing of the LGBT+ society, and once I started being an active member of the internet I soon found the homophobic slurs flying around my ears. There however are places where the homophobia is even worse than on the internet though, we all know about the anti-gay laws in Russia, and there are many other countries where being with someone of the same gender is forbidden. There is a chance that I might discuss those countries in a later blog, but for this one I want to focus on the two countries I am quite biased towards, which also means that I know a bit more about them: Japan & South Korea.

Now before I start taking on my role as a massive smart ass who likes to share her knowledge with the rest of the world, I would like to point out that I have never actually been to Japan or South Korea, so I have never actually experienced things first hand. Most of the information I've gathered are from several youtubers I follow and the occasional article I've read on the internet. Therefore my knowledge is very limited and might be incorrect, so don't get angry with me if I get things wrong. I'm just a girl with an passion towards Japan, South Korea and LGBT+, who happens to try to combine them all into a somewhat informative blogpost.

Saturday, November 30, 2013

Interfandom hate - why exotics are the most 'annoying'

Every person who spends quite some time on the internet is quite familiar with the modern concept of Fandoms. Where in the past fans of a certain group or series would mainly only interact with each other at concerts or events, there is now a platform for all of them to get together and talk about their fandom 24/7 if they would prefer to do so. And as many other things on the internet, this soon caused the concept of fandom to take a completely new proportion with many new aspects, and one of those aspects might be the hate towards other fandoms.
Now, I certainly believe that even before the internet people already complained about the fans of certain groups. I can already imagine a flannel shirted young man in 1996 complain about how those few Backstreet Boy fan girls he knew were out of their mind. And I can already hear those belly-shirted girls complaining about how 'N Sync didn't come even close to Backstreet Boy's greatness. But I don't think any of those stereotypes were as strong as they are nowadays.

"Most annoying fandoms?" That is a thread I come across as I casually browse through the internet. It's been posted on so I am not surprised to see that all fandoms that are mentioned are Kpop related. What might be more surprising, however, is that the most general answer seems to be the Exotics. Now, I have picked up on the general dislike for EXO's fan in the past, but I never gave it much though. But this time I wondered what it was about that specific fangroup that made them so hateable. Luckily the OP was very willing to provide a handful of reasons:
- Whenever I go to live streams the comments are constantly (not even exaggerating) filled with exotics asking "where is exo", "have exo performed yet", "I only came to watch exo" etc. to the point that I can't see any non exo related comments. When exo performs they go on and on about how exo are the best group there, and then as soon as exo has finished they all leave. How can you say exo is the better than everyone else when the only one you watched was them.- Some exotics cannot handle any sort of criticism to exo, I find they are over the top defensive compared to other fandoms.- Some exotics even treat exo like crap, look at the Beijing Airport incident, they are so crazy that they don't even care if they hurt/upset what they are fans of.- When exotics think that exo are better than everyone else and that everyone tries to copy exo. Just today I saw some exotics saying Infinite copied Exo because they has super powers in their mv which exo did first. I'm sorry but only delulus would think exo were the first and only artist to use a superhero concept. Need proof? Go watch TVXQ - Keep Your Head Down. Stop thinking everyone wants to be like exo, exo are still nugu in korea.- Finally, the fan war with BAP and Exo, it annoys me so much when I see exotics saying BAP sucks because Exo managed to win on their 2nd comeback and BAP still haven't. I might be wrong but I don't see as many Babys bashing compared to Exotics, I mainly see Baby's defending themselves.
Now, the way (s)he stated these points, I think I could easily hate the Exotics too. That is, if I were an uninformed passer by who hadn't been around in Kpop world for more than a few days. I, however, am proud to say that I might be aware of a bit more background knowledge that said informed passer by.
Now, let's start at the very beginning shall we? The first issue they seem to have is how the exo related comments are the most present whenever there is a livestream. That certainly is quite annoying, especially if you came there for another group or just to enjoy the whole experience. But is it truly just because EXO fans are annoying? Well, here is a nice little graph that might alter your perspective:

So, what do we see here? It's a ranking of the sizes of boy group fan clubs in the year 2013, and believe it or not, EXO completely defeats all other groups. Now my point isn't that EXO is better, no my dear friend. What I'm showing you is that their fan group is absolutely massive, and therefore it might not be because of the personality of the fans, but because of their sheer amount that they are so omnipresent in the comment box.
In my eyes this fact also has a large impact on the arguments that follow the first, since I'm quite sure that each fandom has that percentage of people that can't handle criticism, treat the idols poorly and make a habit of commenting negatively on other group's video's. It's just that because the fandom is quite a bit bigger there is a larger number of people within that percentage.
I don't think that the number of the fans is all though, I am quite sure that there is one other element that comes to play when one wonders what it is that makes Exotics so 'annoying'. Those who have clicked on the link that I provided below the graph might have taken notice of the girl group version. The graph seems to be quite similar, or to be real, while EXO might be a giant to the other boy bands, comparing Girl's Generation to the other girl groups is like comparing a Giant to a pixie. It's completely out of proportion. But then, why aren't Sones as renown as Exotics? Well, I think that the answer might lie in the history of the respective groups.
Girl's Generation debuted in the year 2007, at the time Kpop was only at the very beginnings of gaining popularity outside of Korea, people weren't very familiar with it yet and therefore it was quite hard for them to gain fans. But time went on and slowly but steadily they made their way into our hearts. By now they have managed to gain a large fanbase, a large portion of which has grown older along with the lovely group of girls. 5 years later, in the year 2012, EXO decided to make it's debut. It was a flashy, expensive video clip that showed up during a peak of the hallyu wave, easily gaining popularity as it was from the same company as some of the most popular established Kpop groups. It turned out to be a formula of success and the fandom grew explosively, quickly taking a prominent place in Kpop.
So, what is exactly my point? Well, I actually made a few. First of all EXO is still a very young group, and therefor has a very young fan base. The teens aren't yet balanced out by the young adults which causes the fans to have a very teenage way of dealing with things. They are more likely to show the tricks we are used to in the average middle schooler. It can only be expected that they are more likely in general to point at another Kpop group and call him a geek. Secondly, this fandom group up in a completely different era. The attitude towards Kpop is completely different nowadays than it was 5-6 years ago when Girl's Generation started making her first baby steps. The concept 'troll' and 'hater' are much more common by now. And lastly, the rate at which the amount of Sones grew is much smaller than the rate at which the amount of Exotics grew. And just like anything that grows very quickly, the EXO fandom is probably suffering from some growth pains. The increase in fans might be more than it can handle and it might be a while before it can settle down properly.
These points combined are what my response is to the final point that the OP made about the war between BAP and EXO. It's not surprising to see that EXO's main rival is another young group that debuted at the same time. It's a typical case of high school rivalry.
My main point of this article is that there probably isn't such a thing as worse or better fandoms. I think that at the end of the day they are all pretty damn equal. The Exotics aren't worse that another fandom, they are just new and in large numbers, which clearly causes some trouble. This is just another case of forming stereotypes and finger pointing. What I ask of my readers is to just let the other fandoms be, in the end we are all just people that enjoy listening to music and by getting yourself worked up about others you aren't going to make them change. All you can do is just wait until the others grow up. But don't worry, you probably wont ever be without a fandom to complain about, because even if the Exotics will one day be released from the title of most annoying fandom, there will certainly be another fandom waiting to fill it's place.


Hi there! Welcome to my blog.

Over the years I have started several blogs and sites with great plans of what I was going to do with them, but over the time they burned out. I have come to realize that the main reason behind this was because I always put limitations on what I was going to post in said blog. It was always focused on one thing, like reviews, or my daily life, or music I liked. And every time I wanted to post about something else I felt like I shouldn't because that wasn't what the blog was for and people might not be interested. Today I decided to start a blog where I wouldn't care. If I feel like writing a review on a song, I will write a review on a song, if I feel like discussing a controversial subject, I will do so. And if I feel like writing several pages of absolute nonsense, I will indulge in that urge too. Basically, this will be my tiny sanctuary where I will post whatever I want and stop caring about whether it is what my readers expect.

Despite doing whatever I want I would still love it if my readers would enjoy the experience and be willing to come along on the ride. I will appreciate any requests or suggestions, though I cannot guarantee I will fulfill them. But I will always give it a shot!

Thank you for giving this blog a glance, and I hope you will enjoy reading some of my posts in the future!